hey ppl. i chanced upon tis and i would like to share wif u ppl.
take some time to read it ok? it may seem long, but its worth reading. =))


human are egoistical. if you know you're the one in the wrong, make the first move to say 'sorry'. if you apologise, the other person probably will too.
true, it isn't easy to take a step back and humble yourself, but if you truly want to make things all right again, then that's probably the best option.
when 'sorry' doesn't really help because the argument was too serious, it helps to give the other party some breathing spaces. this is especially important, if that person treats you as a very important person in his/her life.

if you've just have a spat with your partner, give him or her time to themselves, which will help get their balance back and think through what just happened.
after time apart, they would have been able to sort out their thoughts and decide which step to take next.
however, there are some people who tend to feel isecure, and a fight would make things even worse.
if your partner is such a person, it is best to immediately contact him or her and try to make things right again. having too much time apart could cause him or her to think negatively, making matters worse.

when it comes to the same problem you had a fight over before, it's best to give way.
a good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
if not, learn how to negotiate. each of you will state what you want, then work together to find a way forward.
this way, it's a win-win situation no matter what.

bottling everything inside your heart will only help you tide over the current argument.
over time, as the number of issues accumulate, your bottled up feelings of resentment will erupt. and this will further strain the relationship.
know that hidden resentment poisons a relationship, if something bothers you, say it.
generally, guys are wary emotional conversations (which girls love unfortunately) instead they love finding solutions.
so, let him or her know how you feel, and find an answer together. listen with your ears and hearts.
after an argument, those involved will tend to want to speak about what has happened. however, don't blow your top over every little thing he or she says about you that was wrong. instead, try to keep your cool and listen.
sometimes it is good to understand the things that won't change whether in your friend, partner, or family members. some characteristics are there for life, and you have to face that.
punishing or scolding won't work. true, it may make you feel better after the 'abuse', but it will actually let the person resent you more, and want to repeat the same fault again.

a better way is to reward the things you like, and ignore what you won't like.
Reseach Shows That A Person Needs Five Positive Experiences To Erase The Memory Of One Negative Experience. So, Give Five Kisses For Each Fight, Five Kind Words For Each Hurtful Things You Say.

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